Relationship Lessons: Summer Musing

This has been an interesting summer. A really good one in so many ways and also one that has served me some bittersweet lessons in relationship growth and change.

This is the last summer I will be driving my daughter to and from work and dance classes and all the other places she needs to be. Next summer she will be driving herself and these tiny pockets of car time with her will no longer be necessary. This realization is hard AND it's beautiful. I am choosing to lean into enjoying every drive and just let these short drives fill my heart with love for the fleeting moment. It is at the same time so hard realizing that soon she will be off on her own and my stewardship will no longer be necessary. It is BOTH hard AND beautiful to watch them grow into independent grown up humans that we've been dreaming of them becoming. I am leaning into the beautiful, but there are moments where I notice the bittersweet reality that is racing towards us, and it is hard.

I've also had a bittersweet lesson in the nature of the ebb and flow of friendships. Even though I have never needed or wanted a large circle of friends and have always been blessed with a few beautiful amazing soul friends as an adult, I was recently reminded that the gradual (or sometimes sudden) drift of a friendship, especially one that felt especially close, does have the power to sting especially when it was initiated by the other. I have come to realize that the most wonderful people can sometimes be placed to walk beside you for just a short time. The reality is that the only real constant in life is change. People change, situations change, circumstances change, goals change and therefore sometimes alignment between two people can change. Unfortunately, in my case I was taken a little bit by surprise, but in reflection I came to see that I have deep love and respect for this person and I am actively choosing to release them in love to continue on their path. This person may still be in my life, not gone for good, but energetically in a different place than before. I am choosing to let this be ok, despite the hurt that I felt in my heart in that moment.

So I sit with it, as I am in this moment, and let the feelings flood in about both of these situations. I allow them to just wash over me as I pause and remember that I get to reframe my story about both of these situations. I can choose to sit in the low frequency in both of these scenarios, or I can choose to feel the feelings and ride the ebb and flow of the emotions, and then release the feelings with love, knowing if the feelings return they will be welcomed as many times as needed until they are integrated into my being in a higher frequency. The truth is, I want what is best for both my daughter and my friend. I want them to continue down their own paths of life. I want neither of them to NEED me. But I do hope that they will CHOOSE me in the future because they FEEL my love for them deep in my soul.

Right now I am choosing to let both of these situations be my TEACHERS. I choose to trust that everything is happening exactly the way it should, and is divinely orchestrated to be in my highest and greatest good, in perfect timing.

~With love, Tanya